Stalking

DEFINITION

Stalking means engaging in a course of conduct directed at specific person(s) that would cause a reasonable person to (a) fear for his or her safety or the safety of others, or (b) suffer substantial emotional distress.

People are most often stalked by someone they know such as an acquaintance or an ex-partner, but you can also be stalked by a stranger. Stalking behavior is often mistaken as simply being unwanted romantic attention and is not taken seriously. However, if not interrupted, stalking can begin to force a victim to alter their routine, live in fear, or be physically in danger.

EXAMPLES OF STALKING BEHAVIOR

  • Repeatedly following or spying on you
  • Repeatedly calling your home and/or work
  • Repeatedly sending you unwanted e-mails, letters, Facebook messages, text messages, etc.
  • Leaving unwanted gifts or items for you to find
  • Vandalizing or damaging your property
  • Threatening you or someone close to you
  • Repeatedly showing up for no legitimate purpose at places where you are

WHAT TO DO

Visit the Get Help page for more information about safety, medical, support, and reporting options.

Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. It is best that you talk with a professional about creating a safety plan but there are steps you can take to increase your safety:

  • Trust your instincts
  • Don't downplay the danger
  • Take threats seriously
  • Danger is generally higher when the stalker talks about suicide or murder
  • Don't communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you
  • Keep evidence of the stalking
  • Write down the time, date, and place of any incidents.
  • Save any e-mails, texts, etc. from the stalker

RESOURCES

Visit the resources page to find information about who to contact for support and reporting options.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

Stalker Incident Form

Stalking Resource Center